We are making some changes.
First, we are not taking any more foster kids. We have four kids now, our two foster kids will soon be officially ours. Although I think we could do one more. I always feel like one more, one more! But David feels strongly that we are pretty full-up and busy parenting these kids. He believes we should stop and give what we can to these kids. And do that well.
David is very smart about these things, so I am slowly moving into this way of thinking.
But we aren’t done with being a positive force in the life of foster kids. What I’m about to tell you is a trade-off of sorts. We can stop fostering, but I want to do this one thing….
And David has agreed.
I was inspired by a couple of articles: this New York Times piece from last year, The Power of a Dinner Table, by David Brooks, and this piece, Children on the Cusp: The Transition from Fostercare to Adulthood is Leaving Some Behind, by Camalot Todd in the Las Vegas Sun. They made me want to do something for kids aging out of the system.
The idea – hosting a kitchen supper every Friday night.
Australian Chef, Bill Granger, originally created this concept. He hosted a small supper at his house, sitting in the kitchen, (not the dining room – too formal) on a weeknight to connect with friends. Nothing too fancy, and easy enough to do every week.
Not a dinner party – a supper. Cozy food, a few simple dishes, no appetizers, no crazy desserts. Just good home-cooking and inviting a family or two that we love…
AND – the important bit – opening our supper to aging-out, or aged-out foster kids, who want to hang out, use the wifi, talk to some good people, get welcomed like family, make new family, eat a good meal, know they are connected to other people who aren’t being paid to be with them, feel safe.
That’s it. Just feeling safe and relaxed. Cared about.
We are working with DCFS to make this happen, and will be reaching out to friends to invite them to kitchen supper. We also welcome our friends to reach out to us.
The photos you are looking at were shot by my good friend, artist, photographer, Emily Wilson. (Her work is amazing, please check her out.)
She came for lunch one day, and as it is with photographers, the day became a shoot. And it was so much fun, she came back that evening and shot our first official kitchen supper with Drew Cohen and Scott Seeley, owners of The Writer’s Block, the best bookstore in Vegas, and soon-to-be foster-dads.
Drew came over early and we cooked the dinner together.
It was so much fun, this got me thinking. What if kitchen supper guests could come early and cook with us? Cooking at 5pm, and dinner at 7pm?
Yes, I want to do that. Every week.
So that’s the plan.
Supper every Friday night at our house. Come at 5pm and cook. Come at 7pm and eat together.
Be there for a teen who is moving out into the world alone, without solid family connections.
Tell a kid a funny joke.
Give them a little advice.
Learn to cook something.
Teach someone to cook something.
So thank you, people we love, for being there for our foster kids, and creating all kinds of community for them, as they have moved in and out of our house.
As we close out our foster care license, and adopt our kiddos, and become one big ridiculous family, we want you to join us again on our next adventure…
Being there for aging-out foster kids. At least some of them. As many as we can.
Email us if you’d like to come.
See what happens.
If you are in Las Vegas, and we know each other or are connected through friends, and you want to attend a Kitchen Supper, you can email me at kimATFosterEntertainmentDOTnet or text me at 917. 903 1344 to get on the calendar.
More importantly, if you know a foster youth who is in the process of aging-out of the system or has aged-out, and might need a free dinner and a safe place to hang with some cool folks, please get ahold of me.